1. Expectations means we have already decided the outcome of a situation or a person's behavior and according to us that is the RIGHT way.
2. We want the outcome to be only OUR WAY for us to remain stable. If it happens any other way we will get disturbed, even if it is a better way.
3. When we get disturbed, we hold them responsible for our reaction and we even feel that they have let us down by not meeting our expectations.
4. Not having expectations does not mean that we will not give instructions or corrections. It means whatever may be the outcome we will be open to being in the present moment and respond proactively.
5. Give instructions and opinions, but do not expect that they have to be followed the way and at the time which we think is right. If we have expectations we react negatively. If we do not have expectations, we will accept the outcome and respond positively.
6. If we get hurt and react often, very soon we label them saying -- they NEVER listen to us, they ALWAYS let us down.
OM SHANTI
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